- A new car.
- A new home.
- A new relationship.
- Your first job.
- Fresher clothes.
- A new experience. That one— New experiences! We love them!
- Your first trip abroad.
- Your first kiss.
- The first trip outside of your mind.
- The first time you voted.
- A promotion.
- Your baptism.
- The day you bungee jumped, skydived, or rock climbed.
- Your first tattoo, piercing, and colored hair.
- Your first cellphone, time you sneaked out, or took a trip to the movies.
- The first time you got stung by a bee.
- Your drivers test.
- Your relative’s funeral.
- Your child’s first word.
- A birth.
- The list goes on and on and on.
There is something about humanity & new experiences! We tire of the old. We unfriend the familiar. We are on a chase for a new high.
However, what do you do the day that drive attempts to pull you South? What if you’ve already got something good going on, but you miss Miss.Newness? The chase- it never satisfies. In a relationship, the most memorable and “exciting” season for many people- is that of courtship. Why? Because so much is new. That’s why after a few years of marriage, the couple needs to “spice things up.” Or take buying that new car- notice that new car smell, but within weeks stop sensing such.
So what do you do to satisfy that insatiable drive? How many new things can you actually experience before the writing ink for your list dries out?
Good or bad, the “first times” and the new moments of our lives, we remember with admiration. I’ve been thinking for a couple weeks now, what is the solution for this search of ours? Is this phenomenon a part of our DNA or our character? Why such a drive?
There is something my friend did say that makes sense- she talked about doing things mechanically once they’re routine and how it isn’t fun to catch yourself doing that. So I conclude- We want to be connected with our hearts. The first time we ever do anything, we are full on into it, hard or easy. We are fully into it, because we want to do our best. Animals do not posses such a quality. The drive DOES give our human lives quality and pushes us to be our best. In that connection with our hearts, is the search for identity.
What do you make of the drive for New Ness?